Michaella Henry
1 min readMar 20, 2021

We have to be careful here. It is perfectly normal for victims of sexual abuse to appear reserved, distant, weepy, stiff, stuttering, rehearsed, or frankly any type of way when recounting abuse publicly. Some of the arguments you give in this piece are thought provoking and shed light on unfair assumptions. Presuming, however, that there is some specific way a survivor should sound or appear when giving testimony is unfair. Plenty of survivors do rehearse what they want to say before a trial or interview because they don’t want to get distracted, off topic, or forget key points they meant to include. I am not in favor of one side or the other as I am not familiar with the case. But I feel this is worth mentioning to avoid spreading this harmful belief. Consider: if she was devastated, her lip trembled, voice shook, and there were tears in her eyes, someone would easily say it was “overdramatic” or “performative”. There is no perfect way to be while giving testimony.

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Michaella Henry
Michaella Henry

Written by Michaella Henry

Writer and UX Designer. Neurodivergent. Intersectional Feminist. Crafting personal narratives that make strangers feel less alone. Psych, Gender Equity, Race.

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Nah, what Jessica Lynn said here was full-on offensive to survivors. "It sounds rehearsed" is a great way to shut survivors up, especially if they're children. In fairness, parts 2-4 hadn't been released at the time this article was published. That…

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When I did my EMDR, in the prep stage my therapist asked if I was going to go after my abuser legally (I wasn't). She said she always asks that as after EMDR people are often able to recount their experiences without much emotion and that looks bad…

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